Always remember you are never alone even in this journey you are with people who are with you. Like the white birds which fly in a group for common destination are leading by turns so you need not feel lesser by following, allowing others to lead or feeling not strong enough that you are not currently leading.

While doing self work there is a point when you master something and become anxious to share, lead however sometimes that might not happen immediately. This might lead to getting impatient and frustrated and taking it personally and maybe even leading to stopping the practises or losing trust.

It would be wise to know that just like parents know when the child is ready and it is time to give them approval of going ahead with their own plans and taking responsibility for their lives…the work would also lead to taking you to a place where you can take charge of a group and lead.

Till then it is okay to follow and watch, learn from others how they lead. Even though the ego might say that you are being a follower or just wasting time in other’s spaces know that you are contributing equally by being a co-worker.

Assuming we have many different parts which come together to form an identity of our ‘here ‘and ‘now’ self the parts which are healed and are working in harmony sometimes are challenged ever so often by the unhealed and the unloved parts as there is a tug of war between them to establish authority and claim the power centre.

As we recognise this conflict in us we have to be sensitive and aware of the operating ego moment to moment and keep the inner adult in charge of the internal environment and function. This is important as a lot of time and energy can go wasted listening to the internal dialogue and the tug of war between two warring parts. Like an adult would it would be wise to take a breath, claim control and focus on what needs to be done in the given circumstance and moment.

Some of us have a challenged relationship with authority. It would be wise to look at the dynamics between a parent, teacher, boss and other authority figures and decide the amount of control that can be allowed and to watch out if there is some kind of internal rebelling which does not show on surface. Sometimes if it is nurturing then one can allow the lead to be taken by another while we do our supporting roles….a good follower only can become a good leader.

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Action Bias

So, I came across this term in a book Action Bias.

Action Bias
Action Bias
This was such a Aha moment for me as the understanding kicked in… I had been pushing myself to do something, anything to justify my existence.
We are brought up to keep doing things to improve and move ahead…our first teachers our parents pushed us to study and learn based on their model of the world. This was mostly met with resistance as we were not aware of the rewards or the usefulness of this. It meant a boring activity more like a burden which threatened our relaxing into our being, thoughts, dreams and existence.
Ultimately, we gave in thinking it was something which was a necessary thing to do to survive in this world and become somebody. As an adult we find that all that learning was of no use as we could not connect it to a larger picture. Once past the learning stage comes a vacuum which cannot be filled with knowledge…wisdom was required. Some people seem to get it and some keep seeking looking up to authority figures or the ones who looked sorted.
What is missing was the lessons in courage, wisdom, resilience and a lack of self-knowledge. These things are not taught at school and left to be figured out through experiences. Some people keep themselves open to such learning experiences others make safety nets and follow the older role models to fit in effortlessly.
The unfortunate ones keep trying by being in the frenzy of doing this and that to generally fill the hole left by a lack of direction, a conviction of self till one day they realise that how much ever they try to fill in the hole the gap remains.
It is possible to wake up and realise your truth to live your purpose which isn’t incessant activity as this frenzied activity is short termed and dries up at some point or the other. When that happens it is stressful as the need to birth the creativity becomes pushing to become a useful expression.